Generosity

 What did he mean? He says that what he needs, wants, looks for, in a partner, is generosity. I try to get to the meaning in plain English. He makes an effort to explain as I question him. I think that what he says is about the partner finding her ability to make him feel good, to put her focus into that. And the paradox, because there is always a paradox in tango, is that she needs to have taken care to feel good about herself and to leave insecurity at the door, and to have put a good deal of time into her own dance, and her own self image and her own grounded-ness.
It is like what new mothers have to learn...you cannot do for your child if you come to them depleted. Or what I have to do an an artist.....I cannot go to an empty well. Selfish? Generous? Two sides of the same coin. Find your gift, then give it.