Tuesday, October 04, 2011
Tango Bitch
It is common these days to hear that there are "tango bitches", also that there are tango snobs, tango divas, etc. What does this mean?
I think the slurs refer to women who might be:
Particular about who they dance with.
Who might:
Like to maintain a small skepticism about unknown people at milongas for reasons of safety and decorum. Or out of good instinct and common sense.
Women Who Do Not Like: having their regular seat taken. The seat they always sit in, the seat where their partners find them, the seat they have their purse and fan and shoe bag right there, with their glass of wine.
Or Who:
Plan their evening around choices that they make and instigate through cabeceo. (Not through coercion or being tapped on the shoulder or having to deal with arrogance and unwelcome verbal or physical insistence.)
Or:
Do Not like being told who to dance with or who not to dance with.
Or Who:
Dislike men who are arrogant, and who have no social skills or even basic manners, no matter how famous they are. This naturally includes men who are known abusers.
She May:
Prefer not to join women who grovel and stand in line to dance with visiting maestros or cool guys from out of town, at the same time dismissing those nice men who will be here long after Mr. Wonderful is gone.
If that is what people mean by tango bitch then sign me up!
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13 comments:
Spot on, Elizabeth!
Excellent post.
Sign me up, too! Well said.
I guess I'm a tango bitch too! Where do I sign up? :-)
Mrs. Ampster says: I'm in stellar company =D
We should start a club! Fantastic post - thank you for writing it.
Good points:
Also the woman who doesn't go for Gancho Volcano Vallejo or any other of the important foreign things we leaders need to learn before we get our balance and posture sorted out. When I set a woman up for one of those things the other night (can't remember which as I can't tell the difference) she implied I had to listen to the music. I told her in no uncertain terms that when I'm sorting out these things the complexity and artistry needed to carry out these moves meant that there really wasn't enough time left to listen to the music and that sometimes it even got in the way. I think I got my point across because she looked stunned but she left the dance floor without completing the tanda-the stupidity and arrogance of some people. And she's been dancing tango longer than I have and even goes to BbAs Aries regularly.
Thanks all, I was pretty sure I would get flack for this one, but I guess it resonates. As for the club, I think we have a quorum! Mari, maybe we can set up the bylaws at Spring Tango Festival.
nrgsave: I like your comment but it amounts to an "anonymous" which I don't normally publish. If there is a way to track back, or an email, it is better.
But thanks all,
E
PS Elizabeth, what happened to you post "The Converts"?
Terpsi,
Hi, thanks for your comments on "The Converts", I appreciate it. But I took the post into edit mode to make a few changes and I lost it somehow.
E
Yes, quite.
I can't say that I ever hear the term, but then this is a big community, and it's quite easy to avoid associating with people who think like that.
MsHedge: You may benefit by living in a more genteel place? At the cost to me (if it is a cost) I am now avoiding venues frequented by men who are woman haters, professing to be lovers.
E
I wouldn't call it genteel, but I don't know. It's just big, mainly, so a lot of things aren't that noticeable.
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